March 18, 2025
Every piece of technology you use, from the #2 pencil to a supercomputer, was designed for someone — but that someone isn’t you.
It was built for an average user, a mythical person who doesn’t actually exist. Any company that wants to stay in business has to balance two things: making it useful enough to keep people engaged, but also structured in a way that keeps them coming back.
As Cal Newport observes, the best way to do this is to develop rare and valuable products. One of the proudest days of my life was the day I went to work for Hewlett-Packard and got my first name badge. This was when Bill and Dave were still around and partially involved. For 62 years, from 1938 until 2000, they built a reliable, repeatable, billion-dollar business on one simple principle by finding and filling niches -- crowded or not -- with rare tools that did really valuable things nobody else ever offered. As long as they did that, they were an outstanding standout.
Bill Hewlett almost went into medicine instead of Electrical Engineering. I can't help but think that today's healthcare would be very different if he had.
Speaking of medicine, that's someplace where average reigns. When a doctor prescribes a medication, they don’t tailor it to you personally right away. They start with a dosage that works for the "average person" — even though nobody is truly average. Some people need more, some less. Some experience side effects. The prescription is a starting point, not a perfect fit.
Technology, systems, and workflows operate the same way. The default settings you inherit are designed for a broad, general audience — which means they’re rarely optimized for you.
These aren’t necessarily bad things — they’re just starting points. Sadly, most people never move beyond them.
Instead of accepting defaults, I try to build systems that fit me. Some are technical, but many are just about structuring my life intentionally, around my own mental habits.
I don’t structure things this way because it’s the best method — I do it because it’s most effective for how my attention and judgment actually work.
This is really just learning how my mind works and designing a system that plays to its strengths and weaknesses.
📌 Social media: Make it a tool, not a trap
Want to stay connected without getting sucked into a doomscroll vortex? Remove social apps from your home screen and make them just inconvenient enough to force a conscious decision. Even better: set a browser bookmark for the one person or group that actually adds value. Everything else? Make it work to get your attention.
🛠 Overcoming drudgery: The 2-minute mind hack
Hate starting hard tasks? Trick yourself. Instead of thinking, "I have to do this," say: "I’ll do two minutes and quit if I want to." Nine times out of ten, you won’t quit — because starting is the hardest part. Once you’re moving, momentum takes care of the rest.
💬 Difficult conversations: Flip the script
Most people default to avoidance or confrontation. Try this: Instead of thinking, "How do I win this?" ask: "How do I make it easier for both of us to walk away feeling better?" Frame it as problem-solving, not a battle or competition, and the whole conversation shifts.
Defaults exist for a reason. In medicine, they help doctors make decisions before they know you personally. In technology, they make things functional for the widest range of people.
But you aren’t average, and in at least one way, everybody is above average. Find it, bottle it, share it. Your life will be better for it.
If you don’t set your own defaults, you’ll always be using someone else’s.